Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do

A groundbreaking and truly stepmother-centered way of understanding the tensions that seem to define relations between women and their stepchildren.

Half of all women in the United States will live with or marry a man with children. And what woman with stepchildren has not—in order to defuse the often overwhelming motions and challenges of the role—referred to herself as a "stepmonster"?

Wednesday Martin's empowering and original book takes off from the refreshing assumption that there is no way to "do it right." As Hope Edelman does in her book for motherless daughters, Wednesday Martin's empowering and original Stepmonster unlocks the emotional mysteries of why stepmothers think and feel and act the way they do. Martin draws upon her own experience as a stepmother, interviews with other stepmothers and stepchildren, and fascinating insights from literature, anthropology, psychology, and evolutionary biology to reveal the little-understood realities of
this most demanding role.

Stepmonster illuminates the harrowing process of becoming a stepmother, considers the myths and realities of being married to a man with children, counteracts the cultural notion that stepmothers are solely responsible for the challenges they encounter, identifies the "Five Step-Dilemmas That Create Conflict," and considers the emotional and social challenges men with children face when they remarry.

Finally, in an unexpected twist, Martin shows why the myth of the Wicked Stepmother is our single best tool for understanding who real stepmothers are and how they feel.