博客來What if the real betrayal isn’t cheating - but pretending humans are built for perfect monogamy?
In this provocative and deeply humane work, Ethical Infidelity asks a question most people are too afraid to voice: Can a discreet act of unfaithfulness sometimes protect the very relationship it technically violates?
Julian Vale argues that the emotional world of long-term love is far more complex than our culture admits. Drawing on philosophy, psychology, and iconic works of film and literature, he explores why desire strains against exclusivity, why some secrets safeguard intimacy, and how a single transgression - bounded, careful, deliberate - can sometimes restore tenderness, vitality, and devotion.
Instead of moralizing, Vale illuminates the inner life: desire and its restlessness; the fantasy of transparency; the exhaustion of modern honesty; the quiet truths couples live but never speak aloud. What emerges is a radical reframing of fidelity - one where responsibility, imagination, and restraint matter more than rigid rules.
Here is a book for anyone who has ever loved deeply, desired dangerously, or wondered why the heart wants what it shouldn’t.
Unsettling, elegant, and unforgettable, Ethical Infidelity reveals that the line between betrayal and care is not moral but human - and that sometimes the most faithful thing we can do is admit the truth our culture refuses to name.
Perfect for readers of: Esther Perel, Alain de Botton, Adam Phillips, Simone de Beauvoir, and Byung-Chul Han.
