Why We Click: The Emerging Science of Interpersonal Synchrony

 
　　你是否曾好奇，為何遇見某些人時能一見如故，與某些人卻總是磁場不合？過去，我們常以「緣分」或「化學反應」來形容這種神祕的力量，如今，科學證實了這種難以言喻的連結確實存在，並將其定義為「人際同步」（interpersonal synchrony）。
 
　　人類在互動過程中，會自然地產生「同步」現象。當兩人頻率接軌，我們不只會下意識地模仿對方的肢體語言、表情與手勢，甚至連心率、血壓、腦波、瞳孔擴張程度以及荷爾蒙分泌，都會調整至同一節奏。這解釋了情緒傳染的機制，說明了為何我們容易感染他人的悲傷或喜悅、為何合作團隊的工作氛圍會趨於一致，以及為何某些習慣或偏誤觀念，會如野火般迅速蔓延。
 
　　從夫妻關係到董事會的決策攻防，作者以兼具知性與幽默的筆觸，交織科學、哲學、文學與商業理論，深入剖析「同步本能」如何主導我們的行為與關係。本書將揭開人際同步的真相，帶領讀者掌握互動節奏，在這個既緊密又疏離的現代社會，回應內心對於建立深層關係的渴望，重拾愛的連結。(文/博客來編譯)
 
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　　「在這個孤獨感急遽飆升、人際連結比以往更艱難的世界裡，這本書是不可或缺的指南，以迷人且具科學實證的方式提醒我們——我們追尋的喜悅，往往始於與身邊的人同頻共振。」——耶魯大學心理學教授勞莉．桑托斯（Laurie Santos）、Podcast節目「幸福實驗室」（The Happiness Lab）主持人
 
　　「作者證明『人際同步』就像疾病一樣具有傳染力，也同樣會影響我們的健康，是人類不容忽視的重要能力。」 ——Booklist書評

Why do you immediately click with some people while others just as inexplicably turn you off? Do people emit vibes? Is it possible to read a room? Are bad habits contagious?

Kate Murphy, author of the international bestseller You’re Not Listening, answers these and other fascinating questions in Why We Click, the first book that explores the emerging science and outsize impact of interpersonal synchrony, the most consequential social dynamic most people have never heard of. Interpersonal synchrony is the seemingly magical, yet now scientifically documented, tendency of human beings to fall into rhythm and find resonance with one another.

Not only do we subconsciously match one another’s movements, postures, facial expressions, and gestures; recent breakthroughs in technology have revealed we also sync up our heart rates, blood pressure, brainwaves, pupil dilation, and hormonal activity. The result is that emotions, moods, attitudes, and subsequent behaviors can be as infectious as any disease, and can have just as profound an impact on our health and well-being.

Interweaving science, philosophy, literature, history, business management theory, pop-culture, and plenty of relatable, real world examples, Why We Click explains why being “in sync,” “in tune,” “in step,” and “on the same wavelength” are more than just turns of phrase. From the bedroom to the boardroom and beyond, Murphy reveals with characteristic curiosity, concision, and wit how our instinct to sync with others drives much of our behavior and how our deepest desires―to be known, admired, loved, and connected―are so often thwarted in modern life.

Journalist Kate Murphy's eclectic essays and articles for The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Economist, Agence France-Presse, and Texas Monthly have been shared and commented on by millions. She is known for her fresh and accessible style and ability to distill complex subjects, particularly the science behind human interactions. Her first book, You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Matters, was published in thirty-two languages and has become required reading in interpersonal communication courses at high schools, colleges, and universities worldwide. Kate lives in Houston, Texas, and holds a commercial pilot’s license.