Jesus Saves And Im Not Him: Helping Others Without Hurting Yourself

Many have been victimized by trying to save others whether out of some sense of obligation to the individual, our duty to God or selfish ambitions. Sometimes we overstep our bounds by taking matters into our hands as it pertains to those we "think" should be better people. How many relationships have you experienced where you felt "If I don't stay with him, he'll crumble?" Or better yet, "She's already depressed, and I am the only one that she can count on." How about the dreaded, "He doesn't have anyone else. I mean, if I'm not there for him then who will be?" Meanwhile, your energy and spirit were being drained because you believed it was your job to "save" your loved one. Perhaps, like you, I have personal experiences with relationships where someone "changed" to please me. But, it was not a complete metamorphosis. It was more like a masquerade. I kept trying harder and harder to impose change upon the individuals because "he's a good person" or "she's got potential". They became projects and would serve as proof of my abilities to influence others for righteousness. So I convinced myself that if I just tried harder or stayed around longer things would work out as I had planned. "Besides", I told myself, "if you love people you will hang in there for them." Eventually, I realized that this was not a good situation for ME. The harder I tried to impose my will, the less favorable results I achieved and the more my attitude became bitter toward people in general. I began to lose faith, not in God, but in others. Although it was not easy to divorce myself from these close ties, it was necessary for my own spiritual well-being. I have found that many Christians struggle in this area of trying to love like God does without compromising their personal salvation. We should examine our motives for spending large amounts of time pushing, pulling and prodding someone to do the right thing while exhausting our own spiritual energies that could be used in more produ

Corey L. Glover was born in Hollywood, Florida. He obeyed the Gospel at the age of seven at the Golden Heights Church of Christ in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida under the preaching of Brother W.F. Washington. Subsequently, Corey worshipped at the Hallandale Church of Christ where Brother Bernard Smith was the Minister. Under the mentorship of Brother Smith, Corey preached his first gospel sermon at the age of thirteen. During his school aged years Corey excelled academically. He graduated with honors from Nova High School in Davie, FL and received a full academic scholarship to Florida A & M University (FAMU) in Tallahassee. While in Tallahassee, Corey worked with the youth and college ministry at the Springhill Road Church of Christ under the leadership of Brother Wesley T. Leonard. Corey graduated from FAMU Magna Cum Laude with a Bachelors of Science Degree in Business Administration. Corey accepted a full fellowship from Pfizer Pharmaceuticals to continue his education and subsequently graduated with a Masters Degree in Business Administration. After graduating from FAMU, Corey returned to south Florida, and the Hallandale congregation assigned him the role of its first youth minister. In June of 2002 the Lord called home Bro. Smith and a month later Corey was chosen to succeed Bro. Smith as Minister of the Hallandale Beach Church of Christ. Under Corey’s leadership, the Hallandale congregation erected a ＄2 million edifice to glory of God; enhanced its scholarship fund to bear the name of Bro. Smith and award a financial stipend to a deserving student each year; and established its community outreach (Phileo Outreach Ministries, Inc.) in an effort to save souls and be a beacon of light in the community. Corey has preached and conducted seminars and workshops at Youth Conferences, Singles Seminars, the Florida Statewide Lectureship, Southeastern Regional Lectureship, Spiritual Growth Workshop, Caribbean Lectureship and the National Lectureship. He was also privileged to speak in Jamaica, W.I. and Caparra Heights, San Juan, Puerto Rico and Dominica, West Indies. Corey continues to preach gospel meetings and revivals; conduct financial seminars and budgeting classes for the church and the community; and perform pre-marital counseling. He is also currently serving as the Director of the Florida Statewide Youth for Christ Conference and the Chairperson of the South Florida Brotherhood Group (churches of Christ). Corey is also involved in the community. He has served on the Community Development Advisory Board and The African American Advisory Council (including a two-year term as Chairperson) for the City of Hollywood, Florida. He also served on the board of the Liberia Economic and Social Develop Corp. (LES), and the Palms of Hallandale Beach Weed & Seed Steering Committee. He has done volunteer work for Junior Achievement and the Broward Partnership for the Homeless. In 2008, he was awarded the City of Hollywood’s Martin Luther King, Jr. Community Service Award. Professionally, Corey is the Treasury Manager for Interval International in Miami. He is also an adjunct professor at Barry University. On August 18th, 2001 Corey married the former Maritza Riviere. His wife is a true help-meet and inspiration to him. She is a great support and a hard worker for the Lord. Corey loves the Lord, the Church and his family.