Men Grow Up to be Boys

MEN GROW UP TO BE BOYS By Allan C. Stover Men are boys until you bury em. . . . Rowena, in the movie Decoration Day. Men take a long time to grow up. When they finally do, life gets infinitely more complicated and a lot less fun . . . . Uncle Sammy (mumbled to Tanya Tata in Hummer's Topless Bar). Men Grow Up to Be Boys is a novel of both comedy and tragedy in the life of Roger Murphy, who just may grow up and find out what is important in life. Imagine Holden Caulfields tragicomic life in Catcher in the Rye spread across a messy childhood, messier teens, and even messier adulthood. Add scheming Sammy Glick as his best friend and an untamed shrew as his first love and wife. End it with a slima very slimchance at happiness, success, and true love with an angel. Roger Murphy begins life with everything against him. His parents divorce when he is a child. His embittered mother accuses his father of molesting him, which makes his life a living hell when everyone in the neighborhood finds out about it. His mother never admits to anyone that shed made up the molestation story after prodding from her divorce lawyer. Roger pleads with her to tell his friends parents that nothing had happened, but she refuses. I want everyone to know how rotten he is, she told him. Im glad everyone thinks that bastard is a monster. Mom, its making things so hard for me, he pleads. No one can play with me without getting into trouble. Please tell them nothing happened. Please. She doesnt listen. She looks out the window and smiles. Do you know he cant come into the neighborhood? The men here would beat him to a pulp. Thats why he has to meet you in the park. Serves the bastard right. She told everyone shed dropped the charges only to spare Roger the trauma of testifying. She even begins to believe her story. It would all complicate Rogers life for a long, long time. Rogers best friend, Bob, might dominate him, but Roger has no one else who cares. His secret love, Madge, loves Bob and acts as though Roger doesnt even exist on this planet. From there, Rogers life goes downhill over a lot of rough road. The book gets funny even when life gets serious. In Chapter 1, Bob, Madge, and Roger play show me yours and Ill show you mine. When its Bobs turn, he says, Ive seen yours, so why show mine? and runs from the park. In Chapter 3, Bob and Roger play the Urinal Game to extort money from students. They drop a dime into the urinal then hide. When they hear water run, they know the student is washing off the dime because boys never wash their hands after they pee. (Some just lick their fingers.) They threaten to tell the other students that the boy stuck his hand in a urinal to get a lousy dime. For a quarter, theyll keep quiet. In Chapter 4, Roger has a chance of realizing his dream of owning a Schwinn, the Cadillac of bikes. Bob helps out by extorting raffle tickets from local store owners. In Chapter 5, when the school imposes a rule that all boys have to wear a tie every Friday. Roger and Bob form the Anti-Tie Society to fight repression and to guarantee freedom from stiflement. Roger, of course, does all the work. In Chapter 7, Rogers dad remarries an Ice Queen who hates the idea of her new husband having a son by another woman. Roger has to struggle to maintain a relationship. In Chapter 8, Roget and Bob go to the ocean to try to pick up some girls. Bob hooks them up with two girls in a scene that has Roger wondering why some guys can say anything to a girl, but guys like him cant say shit without creating an international incident. Every guy in the neighborhood wants to lose his virginity as soon as he can. After that, they still want to get laid, mainly to run up the score so they can brag to the other guys. Roger finally has his chance with Aggie Sue at a school dance in the gymnasium, where the bright lights and lingering scent of gym socks hardly create a romantic atmosphere. In Chapter 1