The Pursuit of Happiness After an Divorce

Have you ever wanted to change someone? Did you change them and did it
work? Have you become infatuated with someone else’s issues and problems,
wondering if they just changed or fixed the issue then everything would be okay?

Have you drained and wasted energy trying to change someone and gotten
nowhere? News flash, you cannot change or control anyone. You can only control
how you respond to that person in your life.

Why did Ariella stay? She thought that if they went to church seeking help and
prayer it would change her situation. Ariella was waiting for a miraculous answer
to her prayers. Ariella was too overwhelmed with emotions and worry to find solutions to her
problems. She questioned herself. She wanted to make sure that
before she left Kaleb, that she would do everything she could to save her marriage.
She decided that she would learn everything that she can do to make things better.

She would give it her all, and if it came down to her leaving Kaleb, she would
know she did everything to save her marriage and family. Ariella started to pray
for answers that “God” would change him or help her. Ariella noticed Kaleb
drifting away, not wanting to attend church, leaving the service early or not
wanting to go, but she continued to go with the kids. She made excuses like: I
don’t have enough money to leave. I can change Kaleb. If he is gone who will take
out the trash? I don’t like being alone. He’s the father to my children.

It takes two people to work at a marriage or a relationship. Are you the only one
trying to find solutions for problems? Kaleb never admitted that he had an affair.
To began healing from adultery the person who created the offense has to ask for
forgiveness and sincerely mean it to start the healing process. If they think that
they have done nothing wrong, the affair will repeat over and over again without
remorse. Addictions will blind a person from determining right from wrong
choices. Addictions numb the pain of the consequences of their choices and reality
of the truth. You cannot seek regular steps to heal someone who has an addiction.

You cannot seek help from people who do not have experience with addiction.

Please use my story as a tool to help you identify the red flags that might appear in your relationship. I want to help you identify the problems and address them with solutions. This book will help you move forward with your relationships for a positive future outcome. I will help you expose the excuses and lies and help you discover the truth regarding your relationship. You will meditate on your current relationship and learn how to become healthy and successful. Stop finding excuses to stay in a chaotic marriage and start taking the steps required to fix it. I believe that if you seek the truth it will set you free. If you ask for something and earnestly look for it, you will find your answer. Do you want to find the truth or do you want to keep walking blindly into chaos?

I believe that God has a plan, and his plan is not to harm or forsake you, but to give you a prosperous life. This book is for all of those who have struggled with the same issues as me. I just want to let you know that you are not alone.