How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don’t

The former Sex & Relationships Editor for Cosmopolitan and host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore presents her poignant, funny, and deeply moving first book.

Lane Moore is best known as an award-winning sex and relationships editor, a comic, a rock singer, and an actor. But Lane’s story has had its fair share of ups and downs, from teaching herself how to become her own parent, to living as a homeless teenager in her car, to moving to New York City to pursue her dreams. Even as she felt increasingly cut off from others, she looked to her childhood heroines (like Anne of Green Gables) and romantic heroes (like Jim Halpert from The Office) to remain a hopeless romantic, and believe that she could create for herself the family she never had.

How to Be Alone is a must-read for anyone whose childhood still feels unresolved, who spends more time pretending to have friends online than feeling close to anyone in real life, who bristles when asked if they have a “support system” because they don’t know what that means, who tries to have genuine, deep conversations in a roomful of people who would rather you not. It’s the story of one person who knew from birth she was on her own—and what she did to turn this into something productive and positive.

At once a moving personal narrative and a guide for those looking to reframe their own histories, How to Be Alone shows you how to find solace in solitude. It is a story of triumph over what keeps us alone, keeps us wanting, and keeps us from doing the most important thing we can do: connecting with our innermost selves.