Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships

Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow combines revealing personal experience, an easy-to-understand discussion about the science of making love, and information from sacred texts on sexuality. Focusing on the ancient territory of “bonding-based” lovemaking, it offers a refreshing approach to sexuality and spirituality for men and women interested in redefining and strengthening their intimate relationships.

Marnia Robinson discusses the dubious roots of our current focus on orgasm and highlights a more expanded model for understanding our sexuality. She describes the biological mechanisms behind passion, the “lows” that often follow sexual satiation, and even why the human brain is vulnerable to compulsive sexual behaviors and other addictions. In doing so, she reveals how we can outsmart Mother Nature with bonding-based lovemaking to restore balance and promote well-being and authentic monogamy. Emphasizing gentle intercourse with periods of relaxation, Robinson presents specific mammalian bonding behaviors that help couples stay emotionally attached to each other and explains why they work. This book is for anyone questioning why his or her intimate relationship has become fragile—or has failed—and willing to try an approach that’s so ancient, it’s new.