Help Me Live

A cancer survivor offers 20 crucial suggestions for the friends, family members, physicians, and caregivers of cancer patients wishing to understand, communicate, and act with greater empathy and sensitivity.

Knowing the right things to say and do for someone with cancer can be daunting, and asking the patient for direction may feel inappropriate. Following her own diagnosis and treatment for lung cancer, Lori Hope surveyed hundreds of cancer patients and survivors for the first edition of Help Me Live. In 2010, her new survey received many surprising responses, such as: “Although I need to feel hopeful, telling me to think positively makes me feel worse,” “I need to know you’ll forgive me when I bite your head off,” and “If you really want to help me, be specific about your offer.” Presented with humor, insight, and honesty, the updated edition will help readers communicate more effectively, listen more compassionately, and make a positive difference to those living with cancer.