The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: How to Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles and Build Lasting Connection with Your Partner

A powerful guide to help you and your partner build true and lasting connection.

Do you and your partner have different needs when it comes to your relationship? Perhaps you desire more intimacy and reassurance, while they value independence and tend to keep you at arm’s length. Or maybe you feel ＂trapped,＂ while they act ＂clingy?＂ If this sounds familiar, you and your partner may have differing ways of relating to one another, often shaped by past experiences and needs.

Written by a relationship specialist, this book offers practical strategies to help you break free from toxic push-pull dynamics. It focuses on building healthy communication, security, and a deeper connection with your partner. Through clear insights and actionable steps, this guide will help you understand your relationship patterns and foster a healthier, and more fulfilling connection.

The Anxious-Avoidant Trap will show you and your partner how to gain a better understanding of each other, so you can improve communication, avoid emotional reactions, and bring joy back into your relationship.

With this compassionate guide, you will:

• Discover how attachment styles are formed in childhood
• Learn about the three ＂core wounds＂ of attachment trauma
• Recognize signs of anxious or avoidant attachment in adulthood
• Develop skills to respond to your partner while reducing emotional reactions

Fostering a deeper connection with your partner encourages recognizing your own unique attachment style and specific needs--as well as your partner’s. The tools in this self-help guide will help you both heal your invisible wounds--so you can build a bond together that truly stands the test of time.

Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, is a trauma-informed clinician, and the owner of Behavior Thrive, LLC. She is clinically certified as a trauma and addiction specialist, including expertise in Adverse Childhood Experiences, and addictive patterns that lead to self-defeating behavior. She additionally holds advanced training in the Gottman Method for couples, which is a leading intervention designed to help cultivate a deeper, lasting connection between partners. Tanasugarn has revolutionized how her clients heal from attachment disturbances, maladaptive behavior patterns, and toxic relational dynamics using her Self-Healing Through Self-Discovery Approach(TM), which is a method she created that includes tools to cultivate self-awareness, personal boundaries, and emotional regulation.

Tanasugarn’s mission is to provide clients with a safe place for reflection that fosters insight and self-discovery in helping them reach a place of self-empowerment that promotes lasting, positive growth. She is a distinguished member of the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT), the Association for Contextual Behavior Science (ACBS), and is an avid contributor on Psychology Today.