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Forewords
My motivation to write this book Thirty years ago when I was in Saint Louis Law School, one day a good friend of mine asked me one question. “John, what is the difference between students in Saint Louis Law and Harvard Law?” I told him that they were in Harvard because they were more intelligent and studied harder. He said, “Not exactly, they already knew what they would do in the future when they were 12 years old when we only knew how to play baseball.” Ten years later, my friend, by his keen observation and strong persuasive power, became a very famous football agent in the U.S., building his own empire with his empty hands. As an old Chinese saying goes, “ice of three inches thick cannot be made overnight.” If you are weak in your power of persuasion, such weakness probably has lasted a long time and certainly cannot be cured overnight.
My motivation to write this book is simple, to build up the students’ ability on persuasion in speaking, debating, writing and negotiation. I have taught English speech, debate and writing in college and have worked as an international attorney for over ten years. In the past ten years, I have noticed that many students with a high English proficiency, including some from mainland China, can neither talk nor write on topics assigned as those found in ILTS and TOEFL. When I inquired further, I was informed that they had spent time and effort in high school on being trained to read and listen rather than write, not to mention to deliver a speech on certain topics. To my surprise, they have never learned how to write even in their Chinese class either. In many cases, they had great difficulty in giving opinions. Most of them have no problem with their English proficiency. English is a tool helpful in communicating with foreigners and exchanging ideas. They spent plenty of time on learning English to achieve a high English proficiency, but they have never learned how to form their opinions by observing and formulating ideas. In their process of learning, they failed to understand that English is a tool rather than their final goal in the future. As an intellectual, you have to be able to express your own thinking and opinion. Your own opinion is the first step of training in persuasive speech, debate, writing and negotiation. What is more important here is that prior to discussing your own opinion, you have to be trained on providing descriptive facts or information from your observation.
The problem on how to establish an opinion is not limited to college students but encountered by business persons as well. In the past ten years, I worked as an international attorney to help some local companies with their international disputes including overseas litigations, mediations and settlements. In a business world, power on persuasion is important. To persuade others to accept what you say, which is an opinion with a conclusion, you must take a position first. To form an opinion, facts must be carefully observed, clearly described and be further analyzed. This task is the first priority in the management of any business decision, especially in disputes. This process requires a series of logical organization. Logical organization starts from a clear description of facts resulting into a well elaborated opinion subsequent to a logical analysis. Quite unfortunately, many business persons do not have sufficient training in this field. In many occasions where business disputes are involved, people who are in charge of this responsibility cannot give a clear description of relevant facts, not to mention spotting issues with a possible proposed solution. I am not referring only to a junior level regarding customer service, but also to a senior management level on this point. I hope this book can help some students as well as business persons who need help in their writing, speaking and negotiation.
前言
我寫這本書的動機
三十年前,我還在美國聖路易大學法學院讀書的時候,有一天我的一個好朋友問我一個問題,「我們的學生跟哈佛法學院的學生差異在哪裡?」我告訴他哈佛的學生他們比較聰明,也比較用功。他說「不完全是,哈佛的學生當他們12 歲時就知道他們將來要做什麼,而我們12 歲的時候只知道怎麼打棒球」。十年之後我的朋友,憑著他的敏銳觀察力和說服力,變成美國非常有名的足球經紀人,空手建立了他自己的王國。就像中國的成語所說:「冰凍三尺,非一日之寒。」任何問題不是一個晚上造成的。如果你的說服力上是薄弱的,這個問題可能已經存在很久,當然也不可能在一個晚上就解決。
我寫這本書的動機起因很簡單,幫助學生在說話、辯論、還有談判上建立說服的能力。我在大學裡面教授英文演說、辯論、英文寫作以及從事國際律師業務超過十年的時間。在過去的十年當中,我發現學生們包括一些大陸學生即使有了很好的英文能力,也很難針對特定的議題發表談話或寫作,比方像雅思或是托福的口語或是作文題目。當我進一步詢問的時候,我才被告知他們在高中時花了很多時間在閱讀和聽力訓練,而非寫作,更不用談對於特定的議題進行演說。我甚至很驚訝的發現他們也沒有學過中文作文。事實上,在很多場合他們跟外國人交談是有很大的困難,但他們絕大部分英語水平並沒有問題。英文是一項幫助溝通或是交換想法的工具,學生們花了很多的時間學習英文甚至達到優異的英文能力,但是他們從來沒有學過如何觀察、整理想法以及形成他們自己的意見。在他們的學習過程中,他們忘記了英文只是一個工具而不是他們未來最後的目標。身為一個知識分子,你必須有你自己的想法和意見,而你自己的想法就是訓練具有說服力的演說辯論和談判的第一步。而更重要的是,在討論你自己個人意見之前,你應該要被訓練的是如何客觀的描述你所觀察到的事實和資訊。
如何形成一個意見?這樣的問題並不限於大學生,也包括了一些商務人士。在過去的十年當中我也以國際商務律師的身分,幫助了一些當地的公司處理他們國際糾紛,包括訴訟案件、協調與和解。在商業世界,無論任何情況,說服別人是很重要的工作。要達到說服的目的,意見,其實也就是結論,必須要先建立。要建立一個意見,事實必須小心的觀察以及清楚的陳述,這是處理任何商業糾紛第一件要做的事情。這需要一個邏輯的組織。邏輯的組織就是從清楚的事實描述開始,經過邏輯的分析而形成清楚解釋的意見。很不幸地,許多商務人士在這方面並沒有足夠的訓練。在許多商業糾紛的場合,負責處理糾紛的人員常常不能夠對於相關事實清楚的描述,更不用找出可能的爭議以及提出可能解決的辦法。在這一點上,我不只是說客戶服務部門的資淺階層,也包括資深的管理階層。我希望這本書對於寫作、說話以及談判上有所需要的學生以及商務人士,能夠有所幫助。