Being Bad: Breaking the Rules and Becoming Everything You’re Not Supposed to Be

Stop giving a f*ck about what your parents, partners, and society expect of you and ask yourself: what do you really want?
Break free from the expectations of others and show up for what you truly believe in.
Embrace the messy. Enter your brat era. Demand space for you.

Salon’s inaugural sex and love advice columnist and author of the viral LinkedIn sex work post, Arielle Egozi, shares their journey as a queer, neurodivergent child of immigrants who never quite fit into the social roles she was supposed to, instead choosing to embrace their multiple dimensions, and eventually discovering freedom--and true power--by being ＂bad＂ in a world that kept trying to force her to be ＂good.＂

With Arielle’s personal and relatable guidance, readers will learn how to:

• Escape the male gaze for good
• Release the shame they’ve internalized
• Make their friends the loves of their lives
• Embrace their inner domme and reclaim their power
• Ditch relationship hierarchy to build the relationship(s) of their dreams
• Discover that sex positivity isn’t about having sex at all

Using frameworks and philosophies cultivated from years of living, writing, speaking, and educating on sex, relationships, and identity through a queer and decolonizing lens, Arielle offers questions, practices, and tools to help you find your own power and step into it--creating space for you to dream far beyond what your family, society, or capitalist culture expects.

Being Bad offers you the permission to become who you are, however you choose to be.

Arielle Egozi (she/they) is a writer and creative director. Their work is centered on the destigmatization (and celebration) of all bodies, brains, and identities and has been featured globally across major publications like the Washington Post, Business Insider, and Vice. She shares a bed with her two perrhijos and partner.