before you say i do: dare to open the lid and see inside or what you don’t see is what you will get

Marriage is a beautiful venture which should also be a beautiful lifetime adventure. However, too often we approach the path into marriage in ignorance regarding ＂WHO＂ we are marrying. Though we will always be learning about our partners (and should be open to do so); it is critical to the success of the marriage that we acquire as much knowledge about the character of the ＂PERSON＂ pre-marriage to make an informed decision.

The mission of dating and courtship is a mission of character examination and confirmation more so than pursuing physical fascination. At the top of the list of character modules examined for confirmation, the spiritual barometer should be most critical.

Before You Say I Do promotes an evidentiary approach to the dating and courtship process. Appropriate knowledge of the ＂PERSON＂ of the dating and courtship arena is the crust of the contents of Before You Say I Do. Being objective about who ＂YOU＂ are, your strengths and weaknesses and how much you yourself are relationship material are critical to the success of the relationship. Being less influential and more casual to the unveiling of the actual or true characteristics of ＂THE PERSON＂ that you are in or seeking a relationship with, produces real evidence-based conclusions.

It is critically consequential that you dare to open the lid and see what’s really on the inside of both you and your partner or partner to be. Before You Say I Do promotes self-inventory, examination and acknowledgement on the same level as your partner or potential partner. Is either of you really marriage material or unqualified to be classified as such? This is a critical question to get answers for in the dating and courtship period.

Evidence driven dating and courtship manufactures truth-based relationships that will stand the test of time because there are very little surprises. The detective who builds a case on assumptions vs uncontaminated or uninfluenced evidence is the detective who doesn’t really have a case. If he proceeds to trial with such case, it will fail in trial. Be sure that what you are seeing is not what you are reading into the relationship but what you are reading!