how can i forgive you: the courage to forgive or, the freedom not to

繼《走出外遇風暴》之後，史普林博士又一暢銷力作！

　　受傷的心要如何痊癒？  破裂的關係要如何復合？
　　犯錯的人如何尋求寬恕？  受委屈的人如何以公正態度善待自己，以尊嚴方式撫平傷口？

　　史普林博士是全美知名的心理專家，對親密關係有深刻洞察，
　　本書以豐富的個案故事，涵蓋親子、師生和夫妻之間的背叛傷痕；
　　擺脫陳腔濫調，在原諒和不原諒之間，呈現動態的連續光譜。

　　充滿力量的嶄新觀點，讓受苦雙方跳出漩渦，踏上真誠和解之路！

　　Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.

　　This bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these:

　　How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?
　　When is forgiveness cheap?
　　What is wrong with refusing to forgive?
　　How can the offender earn forgiveness?
　　How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?

　　本書中譯版《教我如何原諒你？》由心靈工坊出版。

作者簡介

珍妮絲．亞伯拉罕．史普林博士（Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D.）

　　為臨床心理專科醫師，私人執業近三十年，曾榮獲康乃狄克心理學會（Connecticut Psychological Association）心理治療傑出貢獻獎；每年培訓數千位治療師，以其臨床診斷技巧之豐富與原創性而聞名。

　　史普林博士以極優異成績畢業於麻州布蘭迪斯大學（Brandeis University），在康乃狄克大學取得臨床心理學博士學位，之後在賓州大學的「認知治療中心」接受亞倫．貝克醫師的博士後訓練。她也在耶魯大學擔任心理學系的臨床督導，是信任、親密、寬恕等課題的知名專家，經常出現在全美媒體上。

　　由史普林博士撰寫、暢銷十三國的《走出外遇風暴：如何重建信任與親密》（心靈工坊出版）以及《教我如何原諒你？》雙雙入選「美好人生書獎」（Books for a Better Life Award）的最佳新書、最佳關係類書籍及最佳心理類書籍等三類的決選名單，銷售超過四十五萬冊。最新著作《老爸給我的最後一份禮物》（Life with Pop），生動地分享了伴隨這項共通經驗而來的個人挑戰和日常充滿恩典的時刻，並且得體地提出攸關年邁老化的課題。史普林博士現定居康乃狄克的西港（Westport），讀者可以透過www.janisabrahmsspring.com與她聯絡。她與先生麥可．史普林育有四子。

麥可．史普林（Michael Spring）

　　哥倫比亞大學（Columbia University）英國文學碩士，現為佛美旅遊指南叢書（Frommer’s Travel Guides）的發行人。

　　Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. After the Affair has sold more than 325,000 copies. She is also author of How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To. Her private practice in Westport, Connecticut, deals largely with couples who are confronting infidelity issues—making her one of the only therapists in the country with this specialty.