loving me after we: the essential guide to healing, growing, and thriving after a toxic relationship

For fans of How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera and The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban, Loving Me After We is the book that will teach you how to love yourself after you’ve lost yourself in a toxic relationship, and embody confidence, emotional security, and self-love.

A breakup can feel like the end of the world--but what if it could serve as the start of a better you?

In our search for love, affection, and acceptance, we often find ourselves repeating old patterns with new partners. Our brains seek familiar touch points as a way of navigating the unpredictability of our lives, but this means we can find ourselves reentering relationships with the same toxic dynamics. Toxic relationships are especially hard to recover from, especially when they uncovered some of our earliest and deepest traumas. When we leave them, we often find ourselves nursing a broken heart, again and again.

Even Ginger Dean, a celebrated psychotherapist, found herself stuck in this cycle, but something eventually clicked: Heartbreak didn’t have to be a foregone conclusion. Heartbreak can bring us back home to ourselves, not only in our romantic relationships, but in every area of our lives. Once we start healing our hearts, other aspects of our lives open up to bloom.

Through personal anecdotes, practical guidance, and a little bit of tough love, Ginger brings her wisdom and empathy to any reader who is ready to join the revolution of women healing their hearts so they can start the best love affair they’ve ever known--with themselves. Loving ourselves, healing our emotional wounds, setting boundaries, breaking trauma bonds, and doing the necessary healing work after a toxic relationship is a radical decision in today’s society. We become savage self-lovers. We are loving me after we.