octavia octaviano

LOVE LOSS LESSONS is a poetry collection about intimacy without illusion, heartbreak without spectacle, and healing without erasure. These poems sit in the quiet spaces after love changes shape, after something ends, after you realize you cannot return to who you were before.

The collection moves through three sections. LOVE explores the way we reach for one another, the way we confuse longing with safety, the way desire teaches us who we are. It examines attraction and recognition, the awkwardness of intimacy, and what love reveals about ourselves. LOSS addresses the endings we see coming and the ones that split us open. It explores grief for people, versions of ourselves, and futures that never arrive-grief that doesn’t follow rules or timelines. The section holds space for anger, bargaining, and the quiet brutality of moving through loss. LESSONS confronts the reckoning with our own patterns, how love exposes what we weren’t ready to see, and the slow work of reimagining love with boundaries intact.

Written in plainspoken language grounded in the body and the ordinary-kitchens, cars, late nights, waiting rooms-these poems refuse to romanticize pain or perform healing. They avoid spiritual platitudes and forced metaphors, letting one strong image do the work of five weak ones.

For anyone who has loved deeply, lost honestly, and kept going anyway.