Toyi Mthembu

Forgiveness is not only something that you do for another person; it is a gift you give to your self. Carrying the past anger, hurt and pain as well as the other bad experiences, we create a reality that continues living and repeating itself over and over again in our lives and thus bring up those feelings all over again.

This is the story of the author's journey of life and her acceptance that nothing is wasted with God by your side. Allow God to gather all those wasted years of your life and also allow Him to restore them back to you.

It is not possible to be present and available wholeheartedly in a new relationship until you heal the hurt, the pain, the resentment and all the bad experiences of the past.This applies to all kinds of relationships being love, family, work or even the love for your own self.

There is no future in the past. It is so true and important to understand the very meaning and nature of forgiveness. Make peace with your past.Start from scratch if possible. Learn to work through the pain. Learn to smile through your tears. Never allow people to touch and soil your soul.